How to calm the crying baby

A few days ago we explained that babies of a few weeks and a few months are unable to manipulate their parents through crying. That is to say, they cry with a goal, because they need to be taken care of, but they do not do it thinking of subjecting their parents neither by malice nor anything of the sort.

Taking into account then that when a baby cries something bothers or something ailments our duty as parents is to try to get him to be calm again, satisfying his need. The most usual thing is that I cry for hunger, cold or heat, for having a dirty diaper (this is not so clear, but as they usually say, I will not be the one to remove it from the list), by dream and by feeling alone or boring, come on, for feeling lacking in affection and affection. Knowing the causes we just have to look for solutions and that is why today we are going to explain how to calm the baby's crying .


Calming your hunger
The most typical reason why they cry is because of hunger . They eat often, very often, and that's why when they cry it's usually because of hunger. Sometimes they do not cry because of hunger, they cry because they feel lonely or get bored. Then mom comes, picks him up, puts it to his chest and keeps quiet because he hears, "I was very hungry, but I wanted them to hug me and you have done it ... and since I am, like."

Checking the temperature
If you feel cold, or if you have been too warm and feel hot, or even sweating, you are likely to complain, be restless and, consequently, cry. The handymen are not very reliable when it comes to telling us what their temperature is, because they are often good and they are cold. The ideal is to touch the area of ??the neck , even putting your finger to the back.
If we notice well of temperature we can choose to have him in his arms and, if we are the mother, give him the breast, that is why "to see if what he has is hunger". If you notice it slightly humid and hot, one of two, or it is getting sick and has a little fever or we have spent putting clothes and blankets. In this case I suggest putting the thermometer and remove some clothes, assessing the temperature again after a while, since the warm ones stop having tenths a few minutes later (ergo are not bad).

Checking the diaper
I already say that you can have the boy shit and usually does not tell you anything. They only cry if they have a previously irritated bum and are bothered by peeing or pooping. If all is well can carry two kilos of urine in the diaper that does not complain, and poop, I would say the same. In any case, for hygiene and health, check the diaper and if necessary we change it.

Dream
He may also be crying because of sleep. In such a case it is suggested to opt for sleeping , since you will rarely sleep alone. Yes, I know that there are books that recommend that you sleep alone, but that, in conditions, only makes it a minority. Most do it after crying a long time, and of course, if we are talking about how to calm the crying, it makes no sense to recommend letting the baby cry so that he falls asleep, so that he stops crying.
Inside the "sleep" come all the usual recommendations, from giving the tit, which is usually a very effective method to combine eating, sucking, being in Mommy's arms, to rock while singing a song, caress him a little or walk him in his arms. Typical, come on.

Calming the crying when you need affection
In addition to all the more or less physical needs discussed, babies also need to be with us, their parents. They do not like being alone because they do not feel comfortable. They do not like it because in their survival kit there is nothing that teaches them to fend for themselves with days or weeks of life, on the contrary, they come with an alarm system ready to activate when they see themselves .

Our mission, then, is to ignore their alarm system to deactivate it with our parenting skills and so that, little by little, with our know-how, they can gain confidence and learn by themselves (this is a matter of months and years ) to control that system. Come on, if we want our son to be able to get autonomy, to feel confident, safe, calm and be able to face problems like feeling unattended at some specific moment what we have to do is to serve them when they are little to be them, then, those who take the reins of their decisions. Something like the typical and known phrase that says "to be independent you have to be first dependent" .

To calm them, physical contact is recommended . Just as when a baby is born skin-to-skin contact is recommended , when they grow they also need, or feel safe, if we are with them, if we hold them, if we hold them, if we touch them, if we massage them , etc. They do it because with the contact their brains secrete oxytocin and thus the level of cerebral stress is controlled. We go, like any adult, who is better when the people who care hug and cuddle.

In addition, it is recommended to take advantage of the suction, a reflex that helps them to be calm and calm, in addition, well fed. We have already said above that you can offer your breast, but I say it again because babies suck nutritiously (they draw breast milk) but they also do non-nutritive sucking, for which they suck, they are held to the breast, but they are not swallowing anything . Another option is the use of a pacifier . It is also a good option, but without neglecting other solutions, such as caring for the baby and giving it a warmth. The pacifier is not recommended when the child is calm, to avoid crying, because then we will be using it as a silencer, as an element of prevention, and we will be getting used to it, without really needing it.

Finally, and although we have already mentioned it for theme of the dream, there is the rocking and cradling . Maybe you already do it at the moment you say "physical contact is recommended, I'll take the child", because once in his arms, if he continues crying, he leaves one, but just in case I explain it to you. Babies love rhythmic movements, in arms, when we move the bassinet or when they drive, probably because they must remember their time in the womb. Obviously, we must rock them with affection, without too much force or speed because we can get the opposite effect, that is scared, and if we do it too vigorously, that we cause them some injury.

It is better prevent...
They say prevention is better than cure, so we may have fewer problems to calm babies' crying if we can make them cry less. This is achieved, above all, eliminating risks. If you often cry because of hunger and often cry to feel alone, we just need to be alert to the early signs of hunger (when they ask for food before they start crying) and it is enough not to leave them alone to make them cry very little. This is to take them with us , in contact, in backpacks, in a scarf or in the way that seems most suitable. Thus, in vertical position , they have less stomach problems (which are usually called colic), they become less overwhelmed, they are calmer, less stressed and, consequently, cry less during the day and cry less in the afternoon and the night, which is when they tend to be more nervous.